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Read Chapters 7 & 8 Click on the video image below and watch the video on Relationship Conflict (opens in a pop-up window and requires Flash). Read the instructions to write and post an analysis of a past or current interpersonal relationship between you and a romantic partner, friend, or family member. Your answers will be a private assignment between you and your instructor. You will not be able to view or comment on your classmates' assignments. Watch Video Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse | The Gottman InstituteDuration: 2:13 User: n/a - Added: 12/15/14 Worth50 points ProcessIndividual work ObjectivesTo apply the developmental model to describe factors that always operate in relationships to a personal relationshipTo understand how communication climates are intangible but critical ingredients to relational satisfactionTo analyze styles of expressing conflict Chapters 7 and 8 Assignment: Analysis of an Interpersonal Relationship (Click Here) Your textbook author discusses two perspectives of looking at your interpersonal relationships--relationships with people who have significance your life--the Developmental Perspective and the Dialectical perspective.

For the purposes of this assignment, you will analyze one of your past or current interpersonal relationships (can be a romantic partner or a friend) through the Developmental Perspective (Chapter 7, pages in your textbook). You also watched the video above on interpersonal conflict, and you will also include an analysis of the communication climate (Chapter 8, pages ) and a conflict (pages ) in that interpersonal relationship. You will have 3-4 paragraphs written that cover these concepts as they relate to your chosen relationship. Chapter 7 Chapter 8 In your paragraphs, address these prompts: Briefly describe the time period in which this relationship occurred or is occurring and who the other person is to you.

Look at the ten Stages of the Developmental Model on pages . Out of those ten, describe, in chronological order how at least 5 applied (apply) this relationship. You may use more, but not less than 5. You should label each stage with underline, highlight, bold, italicize or CAPITAL LETTERS. Then describe the communication climate using at least 3 terms from pages You should label each term with underline , highlight, bold, italicize or CAPITAL LETTERS.

Was the climate confirming or disconfirming? What characteristics were present? Which of Gibb's categories of supportive and defensive language might have been present? Give at least one example. Last, describe a time when you had a conflict with this individual.

What style of expressing conflict from pages did you use during this conflict and what did the other person use? Choose two terms from pages and make sure to label each style with underline, highlight, bold, italicize or CAPITAL LETTERS. See the example Rubric -5 points for not using terminology or using terminology incorrectly (approximately 5 points per term) -5 for not answering in paragraph format -12- for commenting on one or more of the questions asked (each prompt approximately 12 points) -5 for poor grammar, spelling, capitalization, punctuation, or less than college level writing. - 2 points per term if that term is not clearly indicated by an underline, highlight, bold, italics or CAPITALIZATION How to Submit Type your answers in 3-4 paragraphs (single spaced is fine) in a document.

Save the document as "(Your First and Last Name Chapter 7-8 Assignment" and make sure it's a .doc or .docx Click on the link above to go to the submission area for this assignment. Attach the document using "Attach File."Review your assignment carefully. Click "Submit" to post. ExampleWARNING: This is an example. Use it only as a sample of a response.

Your own response must be original. If your response is too similar, you will be penalized for plagiarism. You will receive 0 point for this assignment - no exception. About two years ago, I met a girl at a friend’s birthday party in his home and her name, for the purposes of this journal is Sara. I had never met her before but we had several mutual friends, one of whom introduced us.

As we said hello and exchanged names, we experienced the Initiating stage of the developmental model. We quickly progressed to the Experimenting stage when we started talking and discovered that we were both seniors in high school, but at different schools, we were both on our school’s dance teams, and we both wanted to go into the teaching field when we went to college. She wanted to go into Deaf education because her brother was deaf and she already knew sign language and wanted to teach kids like her brothers. I didn’t know what I wanted to do yet. We basically hit it off instantly and became fast friends.

Sara and I started hanging out all the time. We went shopping together, we stayed at each other’s houses, and we had silly inside jokes. We were definitely in the Intensifying stage. But around that time I started noticing something. When Sara’s friend Denise would hang out with us, Sara acted differently.

For one, Denise knew sign language too, so sometimes they would sign to each other and then laugh. I’d ask what they said and they’d look at each other and say “Nothing!†and then laugh again. I felt like they were talking about me. This stage was the differentiating stage because it was the first time we started to experience stress in the relationship. More and more things started happening—I started dating someone and this seemed to make Sara angry with me, but she wouldn’t talk about it and I didn’t want to bring it up.

Not talking about the problem and just decreasing your communication is part of the Circumscribing stage. This stage brings me to the communication climate at the time of this problem. While it seems like we started out with a confirming climate, our relationship very quickly dissolved to a disconfirming climate when we started experiencing problems. Sara started to disagree with me on everything, even like whose house we would meet up at. Then she’d do things like ignore my text messages for days and not return my calls.

Looking at the Gibb categories, I recognized right away that Sara would always use control over problem orientation . If I would ask her to meet me at my house before we went somewhere, especially somewhere close to my house, she would just say “No, just come to mine. I don’t feel like going over there.†She would say it as if the matter was settled and I just didn’t get an opinion at all. She would also act very superior to me about knowing sign language and use it all the time at her house and with her other friend. She didn’t treat me or talk to me like an equal.

This climate inevitably led to a major conflict. Even though the climate was disconfirming and tense, and we spent less and less time together, I did still want to try to repair the relationship. Sara asked me if I wanted to go to one of her friend’s party with her. She actually came to my house to pick me up, so I was feeling very positive about the evening. We had a good time hanging out together and I met some new people, but when it came time to leave, I couldn’t find Sara.

I didn’t know anybody else there. I looked and looked, and finally called and texted her, but with no response. I went to look for her car and it was gone. She had left me. I was very upset.

I realized now that she set me up. She was so controlling that she pretended to be nice just to get me to go out with her so she could strand me somewhere unfamiliar. That style of expressing conflict is called passive aggressive because she expressed her hostility toward me in an obscure way. I finally called another friend to come and get me and I never spoke to Sara again. I was nonassertive and avoided the conflict altogether.

I never called or approached her about it and quickly blocked her on facebook. Maybe that wasn’t the best approach, but I realized I was actually relieved to have terminated the relationship, so I don’t feel bad for not trying to work things out.

Paper For Above instruction

My most significant interpersonal relationship analyzed through the developmental and conflict perspectives occurred during my high school years with a friend named Sara. This relationship spanned from the initial meeting at a mutual friend’s birthday party to the eventual disintegration of our friendship due to conflicts and incompatible communication styles. The relationship took place over a period of about six months, during which we experienced several stages of growth, tension, and eventual conflict. Sara was a peer who shared similar interests, especially in dance and future aspirations related to education, which initially drew us together. Our relationship, however, evolved as conflicts arose, especially when disagreements and perceived betrayals began to surface.

Applying the Developmental Model, I identified five critical stages that we traversed. The first stage was the Initiating stage, where we exchanged greetings and introduced ourselves. This was quickly followed by the Experimenting stage, where we learned about each other's backgrounds, interests, and future goals. During this period, we discovered we were both high school seniors but in different schools, and shared aspirations about teaching. Our relationship then moved into the Intensifying stage, which was characterized by frequent interactions, shared jokes, and spending consistent time together. It was during this phase that our bond strengthened significantly. However, problems started to emerge in the Differentiating stage when Sara and I noticed subtle changes in her behavior, especially when my other friend Denise was present. The tension escalated when Sara began to disagree with me more often, leading to Circumscribing, where communication became limited and less meaningful, signaling a decline in relational closeness. This stage culminated in disconfirming communication patterns, characterized by ignoring messages, dismissing opinions, and asserting control over decisions, which severely damaged our trust and emotional connection.

The communication climate in this relationship shifted markedly from confirming to disconfirming over time. Initially, the climate was characterized by openness, affirmation, and mutual respect—indicative of a confirming environment. As conflicts intensified, the climate became disconfirming, marked by expressions of hostility, control, and indifference. The defensive language often seen in this climate, according to Gibb's categories, included accusations, control, and superiority, exemplified when Sara dismissed my opinions by saying, "No, just come to mine," as if my preferences did not matter. The character of this disconfirming climate contributed significantly to the escalation of conflicts and the eventual breakdown of our relationship.

The conflict that marked the culmination of our relational decline was a situation during a social gathering when Sara left abruptly without informing me, effectively setting me up to feel abandoned and stranded. During this conflict, I employed a nonassertive style, avoiding confrontation and instead choosing to suppress my feelings, which was typical of passive conflict management. Sara, on the other hand, used a passive-aggressive technique, expressing hostility indirectly by pretending to be friendly and then secretly leaving without notice. Her approach reflected an avoidance of direct confrontation, instead relying on subtle manipulations to express her hostility. The conflict ultimately led me to withdraw from the relationship completely, blocking her on social media and ceasing all communication. This passive approach to conflict resolution underscored the deep-seated issues within our relationship, which could not be resolved through direct, assertive communication.

This analysis highlights how the developmental stages, communication climate, and conflict styles interact to influence the trajectory of interpersonal relationships. Early stages of closeness can develop through shared interests and goals, but if communication deteriorates and conflict is expressed through disconfirming patterns, the relationship often faces inevitable decline. The importance of open, supportive communication and assertive conflict management becomes evident in maintaining healthy relationships. Understanding these dynamics can help individuals navigate interpersonal challenges more effectively, fostering healthier, more resilient connections.

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